Low self esteem and insecurity

Jane, a successful career woman in her early forties, desired to work on her low self esteem in personal relations and to strengthen familial bonds with her immediate family, especially father. She had been married and divorced twice and carried the feelings of a) Insecurity – that she would lose the relationship or person and, b) Low self esteem - that she was not good enough.

Jane first regressed to her early childhood at about 5 years of age, where she was locked in a bathroom when she refused to eat something. Baby Jane was petrified - felt that her parents did not want her, she would be forgotten and left in the bathroom. She was eventually let out but carried the impression that “If I do or say anything, I will get locked again. I don’t want to not have a home or family. I don’t want to say or do anything that will upset anyone”.

When urged to go to the very first time she had experienced such feelings, Jane regressed to a past life as a beautiful young royal in Egypt. Her father had fixed up a marriage match for her for the benefit of his kingdom. She did not wish to get married, and tried to escape dressed up as a maid. However was caught and her furious father threw her in a dungeon, without food or water, insisting that she agree to marriage. Jane, in her past life, vehemently opposed the marriage and tried to tell her father that she wanted to be with her parents. However, he did not listen, had her chained and severely beaten up to get her to agree. She died of the wounds from the beating. Last thoughts were that being beautiful was pointless, she was locked up as she did not do what she was asked to do and perhaps saying Yes to the marriage would have made her father love her.

Body therapy was done to heal the wounded body and dialoguing with perpetrators for integration and letting go. Getting locked in the bathroom had triggered the sub-conscious memory of being locked and beaten in the dungeon, loss of family relationship linked to not saying yes. Finally inner child healing was done to give baby Jane capacity for courage, forgiveness and self assurance.

Outcome:

Jane understood the charge associated with her subconscious pastlife memories, its impact on her behaviour (submissive) in her personal life as also the insecurity associated with family relationships. She left a much more self aware and calmer person.